Sexual Abstinence

Abstinence, choosing not to have sexual intercourse, is a common practice all over the world. The choice of abstinence is probably the single most important factor in preventing pregnancy globally. Women and men of all ages choose to abstain for many reasons. Abstinence is a normal, common, and acceptable alternative to sexual intercourse.

Abstinence and Sexual Expression
The expression of love and affection does not have to include sexual intercourse. Most people have a larger view of romance and find that pursuits other than intercourse give them pleasure and meaning. A walk on a beach or watching a movie together with someone close are activities many find just as meaningful as sex. Choosing not to have sexual activity can open the door for deeper communication and mutual appreciation.

In human beings, sexual activity is closely linked to a person’s emotional and psychological state. The ability to control one's sexual urges is an important part of human nature and also a distinction between humans and animals. The practice of abstinence enables couples to exercise faithfulness within a relationship. Many find that sexual activity is best when accompanied by the deep commitment of marriage and openness to the possibility of children. Not everyone is ready for this kind of commitment and total self-giving. For this reason, many people choose to abstain.

What is Abstinence?
Abstinence means to refrain from sexual contact of any sort, including: genital intercourse, oral sex, anal sex, dry sex (i.e. outercourse), mutual masturbation, or any other physically intimate activity done for the purpose of sexual gratification. Although there are some types of sexual activity which do not result in pregnancy, these are still a form of sex, and most can also transmit STDs. One good rule for those who are unsure, is to decide if the behavior in question can only be appropriately done in private. If so, it’s very likely a sexual behavior.

Abstinence as Birth Control
Abstinence is the only 100% effective method of contraception, and everyone's first method of birth control. Yet many unmarried couples find it easier said than done. For young people especially, it might be easier if high pressure situations, like automobile back seats or empty dorm rooms, are avoided. Abstinence is the best way to ensure that pregnancy will not occur. It is also the only certain way to prevent the spread of sexually transmitted diseases, including AIDS.

There has been some debate over whether abstinence is a true form of birth control and if it is worth teaching to young people. Research shows that teens whose sex education is at least half abstinence-based are less likely to experience an unplanned pregnancy than those who receive contraceptive education alone; and women who report no sex education at all have the greatest number of unplanned pregnancies. It seems that abstinence education is important, and many young people do select abstinence as their method of choice.

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